Hey, its me Wangui and I must say it has been a while since I have published anything for over a year now and all that will be explained in this blog. I might not be able to exhaust everything in this one blog but I might make it a part on part series, I still have not decided yet but let me just get started. The last time I posted anything was probably in April, 2019 and I just had so much going on from then on till now that I honestly did not think I would ever gather the courage to get back into this space of writing. I was still figuring out what I wanted to do and where I was in terms of school, I was dealing with some major mental issues, trying to please my family and also dealing with a relationship.
I honestly believed that I could handle it all but as time went by, that grew to be difficult and would truly drain me and I still had not yet figured out what I really wanted. At some point I decided to take a step back with everything and really internalize what the problem was and why I felt like I was losing all control of my life. I was convinced that it was “normal” to feel as overwhelmed as I did and that it was a part of “life”. These are all the things I saw people convincing themselves on in real life and on the internet and I let my life be controlled by this so called “normal life”. Why do we NEVER listen to ourselves? What makes what people say so right and ours not? Why do we think we have no capability to make decisions out of what we deeply believe in? What makes others so special? The answer is ME. All those answers always point to me. I make people become so much of a priority and listen to them so often that I unconsciously block my own voice and by the time you realize how silent you have been, you are drowning in problems that were not yours to begin with.
I decided to then quit the course that I was doing, quit my relationship, pause my friendships, and try to make a decision one step at a time without feeling so much pressure on when I am supposed to start University, how not being in a relationship makes you feel alone and how I always need to be there for everybody. I JUST WANT TO STOP! STOP MOVING WANGUI, JUST STOP! The moment I uttered those words to myself, I made a go ahead. I started looking for my interests, searching for what I truly desired, what I actually vision myself becoming and accomplishing and once I was positive on my decision, I took my decision to my sponsor (my dad) and he even was convinced that it was what I needed and I tell you I am damn good at what I am doing now, so far. I took time off relationships and dating because honestly speaking what am I really looking for right now? I would just rather prioritize things that I am assured of in the future and I know in my heart that if I was to ever get into a relationship right now, I am not assured of anything. Friends? They will just remain friends. I will make sure to constantly remind myself that I should never put my interests way below others wants. Friends will always have other friends, do not kill yourself over somethings that you are not in control over.
I also moved out from where I was living which has also been an upside to my current life. I did not hate where I lived, I just really felt a sense of suppression into who I was and that was something that really drained my personality and I turned into things that helped me exhilarate who I really was. I drank a lot because in that state, I felt like I did not really care what people thought about me and in a way it numbed me. I was not addicted, not at all, I just drank more often that I normal would. After moving out I felt a certain type of peace I did not think I would feel in a while and it was one thing I truly longed for.
Through all these changes, I still dealt with challenges and difficulties and those are one of the perks that comes with change and for some I was ready to deal with head-on but some caught me off guard. I have made mistakes and I have made people unhappy, disappointed and even hurt some just to get to where I am today. I have decided to do a part on part series of my experiences and I will expand more on the mistakes I made and I hope that this will help me look back onto not repeating these same mistakes and maybe even be a learning tool for other people. I will also speak of a pandemic that came this year of 2020 and how I dealt with it and how it has changed me in almost all aspects of my life. I am so excited to continue writing and I hope I will continue to show who I really am.